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FAQs and expert advice about wedding planning

Here is a selection of Q&As from Your Kent Wedding magazine whether it be about flowers, hair and makeup, fashion, wedding themes, health & beauty, cakes, stationery, legal advice. If you would like your question answered by our experts, please email it to


Easy as one, two, three

Easy as one, two, three

Q. Help! I'm newly engaged. Where on earth do I start with my planning?

A. Mel Revell-Leaman says: Firstly, congratulations! Here are my top tips for getting started on your planning – do take your time and enjoy it.

Step one – talk to your partner. Have an in-depth conversation about what you both would and wouldn't like from ceremony type and venue style to the time of year and a rough guest list.

Step two – research costs and put together an approximate budget. Speak to some venues you like and a couple of caterers and florists. There's no need for full quotes yet, just ask for a guide to costs to give you a rough idea. It's important that you bear these in mind so you don't overspend on a venue and have nothing left for the rest.

Step three – book your venue. See a few options or visit venue open days, so you can compare before committing to one. Be aware that many do get booked up well in advance. Once it's booked you can send save-the-dates.

Step four – book additional suppliers. Start with catering and beverages, as this is likely to represent a high proportion of your budget. Once the more costly items are booked, you can then look at confirming all other elements, such as the photographer, floristry and entertainment. This can all be a dauting process, so if you want help and advice why not enlist the services of a professional wedding planner?

Mel Revell-Leaman,Your Story Events


You do you

You do you

Q. What tips can you give on making an intimate wedding day super-special?

A. Shelley Holmes says: The best advice I can give is to have the wedding you want that reflects you as a couple. Focus on the things that are important to you: if you love food have the seven-course meal; if you're outdoorsy, utilise your venue's outdoor space with your photographer; if you love flowers have the archway and huge arrangements!

I find that smaller weddings really highlight the love between a couple as well as the sense of happiness and joy amongst the family and friends present. Most of all, enjoy every minute. It sounds like a cliché, but the day goes so fast, so don't get hung up on minor details.

Shelley Holmes,Solton Manor


Two of a kind

Two of a kind

Q. We're not really interested in a traditional wedding! How can we create a day that's different and reflects our personalities?

A. Lily Jones says: The best way to achieve this is not to be influenced by those around you. A wedding is an exciting time and everyone and their sister wants to get involved, but auntie's idea of a perfect wedding day is sure to be different from yours. I always ask my couples at the very beginning of their journey to list a few things they both love, then work out how to incorporate them into their day. So what if these little personal touches don't fit in with the overall theme? The biggest theme at your wedding is you! The little things you enjoy together, the little jokes you share, and the geek culture you enjoy – that's what makes you work as a pair. Make your day about celebrating you as a couple, and how you fell in love.

Try not to drown yourself in Pinterest boards that only show the colour scheme you have in mind. If you find as many ways as possible to incorporate “you” into your day, your wedding will be truly unique.

Lily Jones


The pawfect day

The pawfect day

Q. Our dog is part of the family and we want him to play a role on our big day without having to worry about him. How can we do this?

A. Ioana James says: From greeting ceremony guests, to walking down the aisle as dog of- honour, or conducting ring-bearing duties, everything is possible for your four-legged friend on your wedding day.

The easiest option is for your dog to attend the official photos. They normally take place straight after the ceremony and pet chaperoning companies, like Tail Tales, will take care of your furry guest before hand, as well as making sure they are photo-ready by the time you say “I do.” In fact, we're often to be found behind the photographer holding treats and squeaky toys to make sure you get the pawfect picture! This option is ideal for dogs who aren't keen on large groups of people, while still enabling you to enjoy quality, hassle-free time with them on this most important of days.

Your dog will have been fed, exercised, rested and genuinely happy to see and interact with you, and your guests. Then, before the wedding breakfast, we'll take them back home allowing you to continue celebrations without any worries.

Ioana James

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